Tuesday, April 20, 2004
hahaha i would like to thank everyone who wrote in with interesting tidbits about outdoor cruising spots. apparently in the uk the whole thing is a thriving scene not just limited to gay men...its called dogging and there are whole web sites (but of course, there are web sites for everything, umm...even me) that keep ahead of the latest meeting spots. they also have a similar signaling system with the lights...something like an interior light on is an invitation to join and a flicking of exterior lights is an invitation to watch...obviously now that i have stumbled on this i am going to have to do a little research. fascinating stuff.
got plently of responses to my other question too...and i should probably be honest here, i already had my own ideas about what drives men but i was curious to see what other people had to say. the most resounding opinion is that it is a big brain vs little brain issue. kind of what i suspected...i have a theory that inside the male genitals resides a large parasitic organism, kinda like the one in alien. the brain is housed in the testicles...the hub of mental activity, it also produces a thick viscous liquid that needs to be expelled regularly to maintain optimum health... if there is back up of fluid the lower brain may become frustrated and cause its host to act out in "innapropriate" ways. rising up from the brain are 2 tentacles with branching veins that run up the spine and into every major organ, especially the top brain. through these tentacles a mind numbing paralytic poison is slowly secreted. this poison makes it possible for the little brain to control its host...
its just a theory.
posted by Ms_Bunnie 7:56 AM
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Monday, April 19, 2004
this weekend the mister and i were going to go meet some friends in the next town over. for convienience we all decided to meet up in the commuter parking lot just off our local highway before moving on to our final destination. we arrived a few minutes early and so sat in the car patiently waiting when we noticed a car pull in. it was a single man, and not one of our friends so we just turned around and thought nothing of it. he waited a few minutes then started up his engine and left.
ok nothing super unusual there. our friends still have not arrived so we decide we might be in the wrong lot and drive under the bridge to the other one. i notice when we pull in there are several cars with the fog lights on and single men in them. mister and i start joking about commuter parking lots being secret gay pick up joints. we flip on the radio and wait.
we were car dancing to beyonce and kidding around when i noticed some of the other cars doing weird things. lights were flipping on and off, cars were pulling in and out of spaces, sometimes nose to tail so the drivers could roll down the windows and talk to each other. we watched as cars moved from the lot we were in to the one down the street and then a few minutes later come back. i realized "oh my god i AM in a gay pick up joint!". extatic i forsook beyonce and slunk down in my seat and watched the comings and goings from my drivers side window.
i was thrilled to find evidence of a legitimate subculture in this milqetoast county. the usual punk rock poseurs have become such a part of mainstream culture that even here in bucolic connecticut no one bats an eye. it is difficult to consider something daring or anarchisitc if you can buy the supplies at hot topic in the mall. you can see why i was so satisfied to find something gritty, raw, and dirty being carried out by people who most likely present themselves as model moral citizens by day.
how can i guess how they present themselves by day? by the cars...lots of mini vans, pick up trucks, and very expensive luxury sedans. to me that says family men, blue collar workers and men of stature. most are likely married or have other reasons they wouldnt just go to the local gay bar. so whats a guy to do for his gay sex needs when he cant go to the gay bar? apparenty its lurk around the commuter parking lots...but what i want to know is this...how do they figure that out? i mean is this just common knowlegde and i am really slow on the uptake or is there some sort of underground railroad for communicating the latest homo hotspots? i really wanna know.
it also leads me to something else i have always wanted to know from back when i was doing s+m and stripping but it can apply to the above situation as well...what is it that triggers in the mind of a man on any given day that says, "hey, i think i am going to go get me some (insert: ass kicking, lap dances, clandestine gay sex, etc) today..." this question used to plague me most during the day, like if a customer came in at 3 in the afternoon, i would always just be thinking, "dont you have a JOB you are supposed to be at? what the fuck are you doing here?" i would end up trying to imagine the circumstances that led them in our doors that day. was it an argument with the wife? a showdown with the boss? maybe they were squandering company funds on broads like me and they were being investigated for embezzlement of funds, maybe maybe maybe...naturally these questions didnt bother me enough to keep me from taking their money, but still i wondered then and i wonder now...
if anyone cares to fill in a few blanks i would be most appreciative.
posted by Ms_Bunnie 3:02 PM
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